When you decide on giving someone a second chance, be it a friend, a lover, or perhaps even an employer, is it that you are really doing so only and only for that person, or is it somewhere your weakness and inability to live without that person and the relationship?
And, most importantly, does it ever stop at just that 'second' chance? I've often read quotes and adages on the fact that trusting someone and then getting betrayed the first time around isn't your fault, but when you repeat the 'mistake' of trusting that person again, and if he/she betrays you even the second time, then it's definitely your fault for having trusted them.
Well, this also brings me to one other very confusing aspect of a relationship. How tight or loose can you hold any relationship. I've seen relationships where if either of the partners is a control freak, it results in frustration and finally ends. But i have also seen relationships where giving your partner a lot of freedom and trusting him/her blindly has made one of the partners sway and just screw up real bad. Somewhere, the belief that a relationship is like sand held in your hand (held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is...but the minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers) doesn't always seem too right.
So, basically, what's the formula for any successful relationship? Of course, is there any formula at all?.....
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