What's the formula?

When you decide on giving someone a second chance, be it a friend, a lover, or perhaps even an employer, is it that you are really doing so only and only for that person, or is it somewhere your weakness and inability to live without that person and the relationship?

And, most importantly, does it ever stop at just that 'second' chance? I've often read quotes and adages on the fact that trusting someone and then getting betrayed the first time around isn't your fault, but when you repeat the 'mistake' of trusting that person again, and if he/she betrays you even the second time, then it's definitely your fault for having trusted them.

Well, this also brings me to one other very confusing aspect of a relationship. How tight or loose can you hold any relationship. I've seen relationships where if either of the partners is a control freak, it results in frustration and finally ends. But i have also seen relationships where giving your partner a lot of freedom and trusting him/her blindly has made one of the partners sway and just screw up real bad. Somewhere, the belief that a relationship is like sand held in your hand (held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is...but the minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers) doesn't always seem too right.

So, basically, what's the formula for any successful relationship? Of course, is there any formula at all?.....

Is truth always scandalising?

Is there really another side to every story, and one more version to every truth? From times immemorial, it has always been about the power of two scenarios and settings -- from things such as 'the two sides of a coin', to 'a glass half-empty and half-full,' etc. Well, while i always believed that there simply could be only two sides to any truth - yours and mine - recently, i read somewhere that there aren't simply two but three sides to it - yours, mine, and the reality - and this has got me thinking.

Can we, at times, be blinded by ourselves, or perhaps by the fact that we just don't want to accept the harsh reality of the opposite person, and start believing the truth to be a lie? Just the way a lie repeated a zillion times begins to feel like the truth, does ignoring the truth make one feel that it may perhaps be a lie!

Also, the concept of cheating in relationships has got me thinking. Is is that the one who is cheating wants to enjoy the best of both (or, perhaps, several) worlds? Or does it stem from the fact that, at times, you're just too scared to confess the truth, as it could to lead to losing the person and the relationship too?

Life and it's weird ways, i'd say. On a lighter note, one of my friends had once sent me a funny text, which read 'Dear Parents, the only reason i lie to you about my boyfriends, etc., is because i care for you and don't want to scandalise you with the truth'. But, well, are things really that funny, and is the truth always so scandalising?

It's good to be back!

Well, it's been just so long since i last updated this page. More than three years! Wow, now that's quite some time. It has been long-enough for me to even forget the password! Wonder what stopped me. The lack of inspiration, or perhaps i wasn't observant enough to get inspired. Whatever be the reason, and no matter how long the wait, it feels good to be back! And all's well that re-starts well!

Blogging, to me, has never been my idea of making a page or the Internet my little 'dear diary' (no offense meant to the ones who do). I'm still old school and if i'm screwed in the head or overwhelmed with joy, I'd rather run to a friend or call a buddy before rushing to a Twit(***) or any other medium here. Having said that, as the name of my blog suggests, it still will definitely be one of the ways that I'd like to say a lot unspoken things (but not all!).

So, while i'm now going to regularly update 'The Perfect Vent' with some observations, realisations, actions, et al, i promise to even keep updating the look of this page. (Sigh! when i'd first designed that header, it actually looked and felt 'brilliant', but it does feel quite jarring now...speak about being honest!). of course one of the first changes that i'm going to be making is changing the profile pic with a less chubby me (blush! blush!). Of course, though i did think of starting a new blog altogether, something just stopped me from doing so (read: laziness; I'm a self-confessed technotard, and going through the process of filling the details for a new account ain't happening with me!)

So, though i don't have truck loads of people waiting for me to update my blog, for the few who do, all i can say is -- Thank you! Drop by once in a while; i'm sure there's something for each one of you!

See you soon :)))

Ashq

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