Lessons learned

I've always been someone who speaks my heart out, and is brutally honest. And while i would call a spade a spade, a part of me would think for a second before i act harsh with someone who perhaps isn't going through a great phase in his or her life. And what makes it even worse is when you hardly know someone and are all ready to form opinions about that person. I often wonder why are we always in a hurry to form opinions about people? It takes a lifetime to understand yourself, so is it really right to be so quick in forming opinions about people you've just met or are getting to know. And even if you do, how far can you go with judging someone.

What often makes matters worse is if you may have been emotional- (or rather foolish-enough) to share an episode of your life that may reveal the sensitive you, and the person uses exactly that against you. Now how insensitive can that be? You confide in someone you hardly know about a recent, not-so-pleasant incident and event of your life, and when things just go a little off, the last thing you expect that person to do is to tell you how disturbed or messed-up you are. Here, by no way am i trying to say that one needs to go all out and offer a shoulder or express pity or sympathy, but at least be sensible enough to not add to things.

I agree i'm someone who is more emotional and sensitive than general measures, but i'm not someone who gets very affected with comments by strangers or people i've hardly known. But, there are a few exceptions, at times! At times, there may be a stranger who you may want to explore and know, but things like this pretty much nip it in the bud. Also, certain incidents do make people vulnerable, perhaps just for the moment...but they do.

And, of course, when that person has zero remorse about his or her words, or the way in which he or she is judging you, it definitely makes sense to not pursue it any further. (Silly you, get the message...he or she pretty much doesn't care!)

Every day is a new experience...it teaches you a lot, and some things do become a lifelong lesson. A recent one has definitely helped me conclude that I'd never ever ever judge someone without knowing his or her complete reality, won't snap at people, and, most importantly, would not be brutally honest about certain realities and truths of my life unless i'm really sure that it won't backfire. A chapter closed, but with lots of lessons learned!